YES or NO to Pre-Marital Sex

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YES or NO to Pre-Marital Sex

Pre-marital sex is sexual activity practiced by persons who are unmarried. Since world is becoming more liberal in its ways, the thing once considered taboo and sin in numerous cultures and societies have became the part of it. The increase exposure to sex and sexual material on Internet is also a reason for its increase among teenagers.The youth adapting to the changing socio -economic factors considers it as a necessity to uplift their status in their group. Those who abstain from it are labelled as hypocrites who don't belong to this modern world. 

I am against pre-medical sex not because I believe it to be against our culture or society or tradition neither because I consider it a western trend ruining our rich heritage but because some of its negative aspects. 
  •  Teenagers tries sex out of curiosity without knowing safe sex practices which leads to increase in teenage pregnancies and increases the risk of contacting sexually transmitted infections.
  • Termination of pregnancies in some cases affect the possibility of being pregnant again in future thus having adverse affect later in life when one plans for a family.
  • A study reveals that individuals who had more sexual partners before marriage compared with those who had less likely to have a high quality marriages perhaps for the reason of sexual satisfaction. An individual tends to find sexual pleasure in many and not one in this kind of cases leading to failed marriages.
  • 63% male Indian youth wants to marry a virgin girl according to a Hindustan Times Youth survey 2014 while whatever be the status of their own virginity. Such youths sometimes perform virginity test on girls whom they want to marry which is derogatory for the other sex.
  • Pre-marital sex and casual relationships have been de-stigmatized in the youths' minds but they are afraid of being found out which if happens leads to mental depression and public shame.
  • Few narrow minded males see sex as an opportunity to show off among friends. They falls to the extend that they record their sexual act to show to their friends, such MMS's sometimes leaked by some friend or sick minded people to earn money. This resulted in public humiliation of couples involved some of which commits suicide in fear of facing society.
  • I also think that it is making people more practical than emotional about relationships and the value of love somewhat left behind when you become practical.
I am believer of true love which is beyond any worldly pleasures which teaches you to love others only for love. I say NO to pre-marital sex doesn't mean that I am against those who are comfortable with this. Neither I am judgemental of their character nor I am questioning their purity. Sex is a natural phenomenon and existed long before the concept of marriage was developed by the so called civilized society. Moreover it is not bad or taboo or sinful if you are doing something you are comfortable with and also which is not hurtful to the others. I am in the opinion that you should first examine its repercussions in your life before involving in it and must be aware of it's effect on yourself.

This post is part of Yes or No to Pre-Marital Sex  contest on Indiblogger as Poonam Uppal's Book Promotion. initiative. 

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Movie Review : PK

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Movie Review : PK

PK is an Aamir Khan starrer movie released on 19th December 2014. Apart from Aamir movie stars Anushka Sharma,Boman Irani,Saurabj Shukla,Sanjay Dutt and Sushant Singh Rajput. It is directed by Rajkumar Hirani who have previously worked with Aamir in 3 Idiots and produced by Hirani,UTV and Vidhu Vinod Chopra.

Marketing: The film is marketed not in the way today's films are marketed nowadays. No promotions on prime time TV shows, no News channel interviews, nothing of that sort. The film is marketed by creating hype about the character of PK nothing much was revealed about him. The nude Aamir poster was good publicity generator in social media otherwise no promotions. They visited different cities but not much invested in this field other than this.

Music: The film fails in this department as compared to previous Hirani movies. Accept Char Kadam and Dil Darbadar no other songs is melodious. Tharki Chkro,Nanga Punga Dost and Love is a waste of time are par below their standards. Bhagwan suits the situation but is having a feel of an old song.

Story: The film is about an alien (Aamir) who left behind on this gola ( earth ) because of theft of his remote. He reached Delhi in its search and knock doors of different gods for its return. Here he met Jagat Janani a.k.a Jaggu ( Anushka ) who is a TV journalist. She helps him in search of his remote by using him to expose tapaswi (Saurabh Shukla) who possess his remote. The story revolves around his experience on earth and how he returns back to his planet giving many comical & emotional situations in between.

Hits : Aamir as always has done full justice to the character. One can believe him as the man from some other planet. His expressions,mannerism and behavior are all superb. Scenes where he try to understand earth and its people are conceived nicely with equally good direction and acting. Sanjay Dutt is promising in whatever small role he was given. The film never bores you at any moment and is entertaining.

Miss : Although film is not dull but it reminds you of Akshay , Paresh starrer O My God's theme, PK's innocence search of god is some what similar to Rizwaan's search of the President in My Name Is Khan. People's response to the TV channel's campaign is like Lage Rahe Munna Bhai's radio campaign. Hirani failed in creating some new moments as he has done in his previous movies. ( like Jadu Ki Jhappi,All Is Well, Get Well Soon )

Verdict : A rare thoughtful entertainer you wouldn't like to miss. Don't miss it.

Rating : I would give 3/5 stars to it.  
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Magical Vacations

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Magical Vacations

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A television channel says ' Asli Maza To Sab Ke Saath Aata Hai ' ( Real fun is with everyone ). There are business outings and you go alone without family. Then in spite of having lots of spare time you better prefer to stay in your hotel room due to lack of enthusiasm and interests. But when you visit same place with the family having children around, you feel the environment much happier and livelier than when you were alone. Children bring that magical touch to any vacation, their enthusiasm and interests in things make you more excited about holidays planned with them.

Today in this competitive world children are so much busy with their studies,tuition,dance classes,music classes,hobby classes,etc that they hardly get any time to cherish nature. I felt very bad one day when my nephew questioned me about how a full moon looks like. I realized that they stay so much occupied inside the four walls of the houses in the concrete jungle called city that they have never seen a full moon by sleeping outdoors. Perhaps they are also unaware of soothing summer morning breeze, floral gardens, birds chirping and things like that. They are not solely responsible for this situation.

We never took out time from our busy schedules to spend quality time with them to discuss their desires. Conversations with them reveals their contentment in smaller things than we think like chasing a butterfly, making a tree house, watching wild animals in jungle, feeding fishes in ponds, spending time with family in camping and if we looked closely to this list these are also the things we want for ourselves. Children with their holiday plans live with dreams some of which are unfulfilled  in our own lives and somewhere in our life we also wishes for these desires to come true.  

I have kids around me in the form of nephews and nieces and I would want them to experience these beauties of nature with the family in a holiday of their choice a #TravelWithKids. I would ensure such a place for them where they could feel nature close to them. Where they could cherish the beauty of high mountains and at the same time embellish the flowing fresh water of rivers under their feet. A place where they could fully enjoy their childhood and give us elders in the family to relive our childhood with them. I would make sure the freedom of their senses which they otherwise hide behind books or games. I would like to see them as children and not as copies of their elders always occupied with something.

Kids see vacations very differently from adults, their expectations are much different from us and you could have an idea of these desires with Club Mahindra Teddy Travelogue an online travelogue of kids written by kids. While reading them you realizes that holidays are not meant just for fun for kids but they also learn a lot in such vacations. These stories inspires children to travel more and create a platform to showcase their unique talents.

This post is part of Happy Hours Teddy Travelogue at Indiblogger.
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Dreams Have Been Killed

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Dreams Have Been Killed

16th December again proved to be a dream killer. It killed the dream of a young lady in 2012 in New Delhi, India and now it has killed dreams of those parents whose children were shot dead by Taliban terrorists in Peshawar Pakistan. 132 children and 9 staff members were killed by 7 Taliban gunmen in an Army School of Peshawar. Their parents would have weaved thousands of dreams with them for them which now have been buried with them. The date with yesterday's incident again marked a black day for humanity.

They so called believer of Islam have forgotten that Islam labels killing of an innocent equivalent to killing of mankind. These terrorists were so coward that they targeted small children for what they called revenge from the armed forces of Pakistan. The images of small children soaked in blood coming out from the wounds of bullet shots or those covered in shrouds were heart wrenching. I don't know what made them think that they will reach heaven by such brutal massacre. How a normal human being can think of hurting children in such a way.

Pakistan has paid a heavy price with this incident to learn 'we must reap what we sow'. For years Pakistan is a heaven for these terrorists groups of hardliners who are the threat for world peace. These groups are time and again have also proved dangerous for Pakistan itself but no firm steps have been taken against them. This attack on children was to thwart the forward march of Malala Yosoufzai's who have won noble peace prize 2014 for her work on children education. This prize in a way was a defeat for Taliban who once shot her for going to school. It was their annoyance at her commendable progress in this area.

Islam give equality to women in education,business, military and other such fields and in no way restricts them to have knowledge. Prophet Muhammad's first wife was a businesswomen herself. So, those restricting these girls in name of Islam are tarnishing its image. Not only Islam but no other religion in the world allow such cruelty to innocent children. These spineless worshipers of terror are only hiding behind the veil of religion to fulfill their own dirty desires.

I pray to Allah for patience to families for all those children and teachers who have lost their lives in Peshawar attack. But it's a very good sign that the world stood united for such shameless and cruel act of violence towards humanity and spoke in one voice against it. 

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